Signs your pet may be distressed—and how to get the right help

September 19, 2022 · Updated September 26, 2026 · Pet Behaviour · By Collar.pet

Hiding, pacing, vocalising, destructive behaviour, repeated licking or avoiding people can be signs of distress—but they can also have other causes, including pain or illness. A behaviour change is a reason to observe and ask for help, not proof of an anxiety disorder.

Start with a clear record

For several days, note what happens just before and after the behaviour: time, place, people or animals nearby, noises, how long it lasts and what helps your pet settle. If safe, record a short video. This can help your veterinarian or a qualified behaviour professional see a pattern that is hard to describe from memory.

Support your pet without adding pressure

• Keep a predictable routine where possible and offer a quiet place where the pet can choose to rest.
• Let the animal move away from a trigger. Do not punish, corner or force an interaction; this can increase fear and may be unsafe.
• Avoid deliberately exposing the pet to a frightening situation to “get them used to it.” Ask a qualified professional for a gradual, reward-based plan.
• Do not give human medication, calming supplements or essential oils without veterinary advice. Product safety and suitability vary by animal and health condition.

Book a veterinary check if the behaviour is new, intense, persistent or interfering with daily life. A vet can first look for health or pain issues and help decide whether a veterinary behaviourist or qualified trainer is appropriate. The Cornell guide to anxious behaviour stresses that anxiety is not a simple label and signs need context.

If your pet may hurt themselves or another animal, separate them safely and seek professional advice promptly. Keep notes of agreed steps and review what is helping at follow-up. There is no single calming aid or exercise routine that works for every pet.